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How to Keep the Conversation Alive and Talk to a Woman After Saying Hello

Posted: September 30th, 2010 | Author: dio | Filed under: Alpha-Male, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , | No Comments »

"I'm sure every guy tells you this, but... gosh, your ear smells terrific"

Its the most important because so many men agonize over what to say, over think to the point of paralysis, or talk them down by imagining the most awful outcomes possible….. so they let a perfectly good opportunity slip. So approaching and saying something is vital – without it, nothing else happens.

Its also the least important aspect of pick up, because in a few minutes, the girl probably wont recall what you said to begin with.  If a girl is interested, even a lame opener will do the trick.
Now you’ve got her attention.  What next?  How do you keep a conversation going?  What do you say after hello?
Stalling out (especially this early) translates into an uncomfortable silence, which will filled by her saying something like, “thanks for the compliment” or “it was nice to meet you”.

Follow these guidelines and you’ll ensure things flow smoothly.  *(They are especially effective for a “day game”)

  • Introductions. Duh! You can just say, “Hi, I’m ______”.  You can ask her “What’s your name?” (a cool trick to gauge her interest level: don’t automatically introduce yourself after you get her name- see if she asks.  If she doesn’t, she’s either not into you or has weak social skills)  In both situations, shake her hand.  Exchanging names a great first step towards making her more comfortable.
  • Shift Gears.  Just totally change the subject and talk about something completely unrelated.  Good comedians do this all the time and the audience doesn’t mind at all as long as the new topic is fun or interesting.  “I know this is completely random, but…”  “This is crazy….” “The weirdest thing just happened to me…”
  • Make a Statement. Cold Read.  A “cold read” is an ancient skill used by mentalists, detectives, “psychics” and pickup artists. In a nutshell, you quickly observe the subject, use your intuition, and make a pronouncement.  For our purposes, it doesn’t matter if you’re on target or totally wrong!  The girl you’re talking to will either ask, “how did you know that” or correct you, thus opening the way for you to explain.  “I can tell you’re not from around here.” (by your style, the way you carry yourself, how fast you walk…) “You look like a local,  but I’ve never seen you around before” (you seem confident, like you know your way around, the way you look at everyone as if you know them)
  • Bait. Getting her to invest in the conversation by asking you a question.  You’d make a statement with an unanswered implication, like “You remind me of my friend Emily” (in what way)  … “I can tell a lot about you- you learn to read people when you do what I do for a living” (what do you do?)….
  • Commonality. Discuss any shared link or interest.  But don’t beat it to death.
  • Communicate with Energy.  Hey, Mr. Mellow, if you drone on, you’re going to put her in a coma.  Inject some excitement and you’ll bring up her energy level as well.  No need to go over the top – you might scare her.
  • Listen! Drop your mouth out of over-drive and take a breath!  Let her add to the conversation.  That allows you to pick up on what she said and expand on it.  After you say your piece, throw the ball back in her court.

Three things to avoid:
*Asking open ended questions. Examples: “So, what are you passionate about?” or “If you could travel for a year, where would you go?”  Reason- its too early, and she will feel uncomfortable revealing herself to someone she’s known for just moments.

*Interviewing.  Examples: “Where do you work? How do you like that?  Where are you from? Why did you move here?” Everyone likes talking about themselves, but no one likes to be interrogated.
*Being too agreeable.  Alpha-Males are not ‘yes men’.  Don’t be afraid to question, challenge or disagree with her.  (You can disagree without being disagreeable).

Once you’ve formed a bridge from the opener to a more normal conversation, all you need to do is keep it moving forward.  Tease  a little (breaking rapport is critical to sparking interest), qualify her a little …“oh, you’re not one of those kind of people, are you?  I thought you were cool”  ;-) tell her you’ve got to get going, and then get her number with an assumptive close.

You’ve heard of the horse whisperer, and the dog whisperer and even the ghost whisperer.  My friend Sinn is the Vagina Whisperer.  He’s consistently recognized as one of the top pick up artists in the world, but what really makes him stand out is that he specializes in teaching regular guys the skills of pick up mastery.  If you want to learn the actual science of attracting women and seduction, you simply have to check his system out at SinnsOfAttraction.

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The Lie Factory- 4 Scams Men Should Avoid Like Poison

Posted: September 27th, 2010 | Author: dio | Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , | No Comments »

We all Want to Believe.  We Need to Believe – but its that very need that allows us to fall prey to the world’s con artists. All a thief needs is a reasonable sounding line of shit and some knowledge on how to exploit the human psyche to get people to line up and hand over their hard earned money.

The dating / seduction arena (like every other arena) is packed with scammers making big promises.  Before your hopes get the better of your common sense, lets take a look at the facts.

  • Subliminal Audio- First, let me ask.. in your mind, how do you tell a story where you and the girl you like are alone in a quiet place where you can crank up the audio of the hottest new release for her to groove to –  layers of nature sounds and erie  background whispers. It sounds ludicrous because it is.  Not to mention that there is virtually zero empirical evidence that subliminal messages work – if they did, they’d be used by every advertiser, every retail outlet, every politician, etc, and there would be PR agencies that specialize in that sort of thing.  There aren’t.
  • NLP – Short for neuro linguistic programing- which is in itself, very difficult to define (even by the nlp experts themselves).  NLP states that you can change a person’s behavior by changing the language they use  (plausible).  They also assert that you can read a persons body language, or use your body language to affect others.  This in fact can be done – but its more of an art than an science, and has to do more with social intelligence than anything else.  Can a magic phrase, a special inflection and a raised eyebrow turn an indifferent girl into a nympho?  Not a chance in hell.
  • Pheromone Colognes.  Pheromones are chemicals that elicit a social response among members of the same species ,  They are very real and abundant in both the plant world and animal kingdom alike.  The real question: is there a commercially available fragrance that attracts women?  The real answer: NO. If you want to give the pheromone aphrodisiac theory a whirl,  you don’t need to wear the equivalent of Rhesus monkey ball-sweat…. just stop wearing antiperspirant.
  • Any Penis Enlargement / Male Enhancement Scam. They are ALL scams. 1) Your penis is probably ‘normal’ so you can relax.  The average male unit is around 6” when erect (give or take half an inch). What you’ve got is what you’ve got.  Accept it. 2) There is no ointment, herb, vitamin that will make it bigger.  There’s no FDA oversight for nutritional supplements, so you might be ingesting ground up spiders and dried goat-shit. 3) Yanking, tugging, stretching, pumping your penis WILL DAMAGE YOUR PENIS!!!  4) If you read the horrific description of the surgical procedures some butchers doctors preform, your legs would snap together and you’d grab your package like you were protecting the Hope Diamond.

The world’s best pick up artists don’t bother with any of this nonsense. Neither should you.

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